Making Choices

The simple act of noticing the “pests” that inhibit our personal growth (perfectionism, comparing ourselves to others, procrastination) can help to alleviate their intensity.

But how do you make a choice when you find yourself at a crossroads on Procrastination Highway?🤷🏻‍♀️

I mean, how will you know it’s the “right” one?!

Here’s a couple of techniques I use,

1. Try on your future.

As I child, I was a big fan of the TV series, Mr Ben. The character liked to visit a fancy dress costume shop. He would try on a costume, exit the changing room via a magic door, head off on an adventure and experience what it was really like to be a cook or an astronaut or a pirate.

When next faced with a choice, take a moment and close your eyes. Imagine yourself trying on your different options.

Check in with your body,

How does it feel when you try out each one?

Any tightening anywhere? 

Which choice feels lightest?

Which does your heart prefer?

💡Remember that your options can include doing nothing at all.

2. Journal with your Inner Child

With your dominant hand, write down the question you’re asking yourself. For example, which short story idea should I pursue?🤔

Then, imagining a younger, child-like version of yourself ask them what they would do.

Write their answer with your non-dominant hand.✍️

💡If you find this difficult to do, you set a 3 minute timer.

The key (in both of the above) is to allow yourself to be surprised.

Sometimes we try to complicate matters. What if it really was this easy?!

Let’s flourish together!

Arlene x