I love sleep. Seven hours please! I can manage on less, but itās hard to do anything which requires sustained energy: like getting up early and writing!
Good sleep creates the conditions for you to flourish. It sets you up to tend to what matters.ā¤ļø
Iāve gone through a number of years of very disturbed sleep.
It started when I became a mum (aged 43) and I was up at nights with our daughter. Just as she started sleeping through the night I had an operation which was medically successfulšš¼, and also led to menopause fast track. Four years of very disturbed sleep followed.š±
Last year itās eased. I still have no idea if this means Iāve reached the light at the end of the tunnel or am having an extended reprieve.š¤·š»āāļø Whichever, Iāll take it!
So, I understand the difference a good nightās sleep makes AND I know what itās like to try different techniques and products to help promote it.
Here are the things that have made (and still make) the biggest difference for me.
1. Bedtime blurt.
I keep an A5 notebook beside my bed. No matter what time I go to bed, I write up to 3 pages of random drivel.Ā
Julia Cameronās, The Artistās Way introduced me to the practice of Morning Pages. I love those, but evening pages are where itās at for me these days.
It can feel a bit odd at first writing your thoughts; “I wishā¦if onlyā¦I feel…she said..blah.”
This is not journalling by the way. This is simply mindless gibberish which neither you, nor anyone else, is going to read. All those thoughts that go round and round in your head. Those situations youāre dwelling on. This is the place to put them.
Think of it as your virtual paper bag; youāre chucking everything in for safe keeping during the night.
There are nights when Iāve woken up in the early hours and found it hard to get back to sleep. After a few hours of lying there, Iāve got up, done this practice, then got back in to bed and found it easier to go to sleep. It’s amazing what ends up on those pages at 3am in the morning! š¤Ŗ
BTW if youāre worried that youāll forget something important, I also recommend having a small notepad on your bedside table.Ā Write down anything you actually do need to remember to do in the morning. You know that youāll see it when you wake up in the morning. I have found fancy post-its work well fo this too.š”
2. Technology curfew
Itās been years now since we adopted a technology curfew in our house. 9pm sharp.
At the start I set phone alarm to get in the habit. I still do sometimes if I know Iām going to be working on something in the evening and may get absorbed.
Turning off the modem at that time helps too.
3. Bedtime rituals
I love everyday rituals. One of my favourites is getting ready for bed.
Iāve given up being resentful and trying to figure out how come my husband has managed to be in bed enjoying the second chapter of a good book while Iām still brushing my teeth. It just takes me longer. Fact.
I see it as my special time. I like washing my face and massaging some oil in. I like putting on my special handcream.ā¤ļø
I also keep a bottle of lavender essential oil on my bedside table. Some nights Iāll put a drop on my pillow. If hot flashes are lurking again – you start to be able to tell after a while! – Iāll pop a drop on the soles of my feet.Ā
4. Cycles and seasons
There are times in the month when I need more sleep – around the time of the new moon.š
Conversely, I can manage with less around the full moon.š Indeed I now accept that my body feels a bit wired around that time. Earth has big tides around that time. Weāre composed of around 50-60% water so weāre going to feel that lunar effect tooā¦even more so if youāre suffering from water retention!!
And of course, there are the seasons to consider as well. Here in the northern hemisphere itās currently the season of hibernation.
I can use this awareness when Iām scheduling life activities. Iām more likely to do big work projects or more social meets up around the full moon and in spring/summer. Iām more likely to have a candlelit bath and head to bed early with a good book around the new moon. After you practice it for a while it starts to become second nature.
5. Bedtime alarm
As you may have gathered by now, Iām a big fan of the phone alarm!
You may set a wake up alarm, but have you tried setting a āGo To Bedā alarm?
Take when you want to be asleep, then work backwards to allow for your bedtime routine – pet care, putting the house to bed, self care time, bedtime blurt, turning off the modem, whatever your version of this is! – and set your alarm for that time.
I invite you to give it a go and see.
So there you have it, dear friend, my (tried and tested!) tips for a good nights sleep.
Wishing you deep, restorative rest however that looks for you.
Letās flourish together!
Arlene x

Arlene Francey Lyne
Coach, writer, mama, raving fan of Mother Earth.
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